Etiquettes of Afghan Culture

When meeting someone the handshake is the most common form on greeting.
You will also see people place their hands over their hearts and nod slightly.
Prior to engaging in business, one should always enquire about things like a person's health, business, family, etc.
Women and men will not shake hands; however, if initiated by woman, there is no problem.
Women and men may shake hands and be left alone to speak directly to each other if they are Muharram [close member of the family - husband, father, brother, and uncles] to one another.

Free mixing between genders only takes place within families and close relatives.
In professional situations such as at businesses or universities, males and females may be co-workers, but are nevertheless cautious to maintain each other's honor.
If a man speaks to a woman directly in a social context (not in the office), he is dishonoring her. If a man speaks to a women on the street, that is equally inappropriate.
On the other hand, foreign men should note that it is inappropriate to initiate social conversation with an Afghan woman, and a foreign man should not ask an
Afghan man about his wife or female relatives.
Unless married, men and women should never touch one another under any circumstances.
If you happen to take photo of a female afghan, seek permission before you do so.

First rule of gift giving is to never offer alcoholic drinks. However, if you know from first hand experience that the receiver drinks you may do so but covertly to avoid shame.
The first time you go to someone's house for tea, it is optional to bring a small gift.
If you are invited to lunch or dinner, feel free but you don't have to, bring fruit, sweets or pastries. Make sure the box is wrapped nicely. (This applies in most cases, but not in all).
When bringing a gift, be subtle in how it is given. Do not immediately give the present but rather discreetly place it near the door or where you sit down.
When it comes to wrapping gifts there is no special protocol. Green is good for weddings.

Dining in Afghanistan is a different experience (as compared to the western world) and there are many differences in etiquette. That should be observed.
Always remove your shoes at the door if visiting a home. (It is advisable for both men and women to have one pair of slip-on shoes.)
When you go to an Afghan home, wait in the gate until you are asked to come in. Do not engage female members of a house hold unless asked.
If you need to use the restroom, someone will direct you. If you would like to visit other rooms of the house seek permission first.
Wash your hands before eating.
If eating at someone's home, you will be seated on the floor, usually on cushions.
Food is served on plastic or vinyl tablecloths spread on the floor.
Wait to be shown where to sit.
If you can, sit cross-legged. Otherwise sit as comfortably as you can. Do not sit with legs outstretched and your feet facing people.
Food is generally served communally and everyone will share from the same dish.
Do not eat with the left hand. (If you are not left handed)
Always pass and receive things using your right hand.
Food is eaten with the hands and by watching Afghans you will be able to learn.
Usually food is scooped up into a ball at the tip of the fingers, and then eaten.
Leave food on your plate, if you are full, otherwise, it will be filled up again.

Business cards are not widely used in Afghanistan. They therefore carry a sense of importance and prestige.
If you are given a business card, take it respectfully and study it so that they see that you are spending time considering their credentials. Comment on it and any qualifications the giver may have.
There is no real protocol used for exchanging cards except to use your right hand.
It may be a good idea to have your card translated into Dari or Pashtu.
Men should wear conservative suits and shoes. If working in the country in a noncommercial capacity, then wearing the traditional Afghan dress (long shirt and trousers) is best.
Women should always dress up modestly and conservatively and have headscarf while in public.

Business is very much personal in Afghanistan. If you have not already invested some quality time in getting to know your counterparts, then you must use initial meetings to establish trust.
Once this has been accomplished, you can move on to the nitty-gritty of business.
Do not be surprised or offended if during meetings people walk in and out of a room or phone calls are taken.
If the meeting involves a group of people it will be led by a person who will set the agenda, the content, and the pace of the activities.
Meetings are usually held to communicate information and decisions that have already been made rather than a forum for discussion and brain storming.
Meeting schedules are not very structured. Start times and points of discussion are all fluid and flexible. Be prepared for a lot of tangents in the discussions.
Afghani communication style is rather indirect. It is therefore sometimes necessary to read between the lines for an answer rather than expect it to be explicitly stated.
Honor and shame should always be considered. Always express yourself in a way that is not direct or pins blame on someone. Never make accusations or speak down to anyone.
It is not appropriate to pass gas and blow nose in front of Afghans. If you must blow your nose, leave the table.
Don't sleep or doze off in public, if you are jet lagged, give an apology.

Islam is practiced by the majority of Afghans and governs much of their personal, political, economic and legal lives.
Among certain obligations for Muslims are to pray five times a day - at dawn, noon, afternoon, sunset, and evening.
It is recommended that prayers are performed in the mosque, but if not possible, it can be performed any where that is clean.
During the holy month of Ramadan all Muslims must fast from dawn to dusk.
Fasting includes no eating, drinking, cigarette smoking, or gum chewing.
During the holy month of Ramadan, Afghans usually work six hours daily (there is no restriction, by religion, if they work more or less).
Foreigners are advised not to eat, drink, smoke, or chew gum in public.
Afghans are sensitive about their religion, speaking to them negatively about their religion makes them unhappy.

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